Reciprocity

Reciprocity: A mutual exchange or interchange of favors.

One of the magical characteristics of a true friendship is that there is no score card. Two people are simply there for each other -- with a listening ear, arms to hold, a shoulder to cry on and sometimes just a vehicle for a ride. Whatever the need, a friend fills it.

It would be selfish to keep track of each favor, each measure of support. In a deep, long-lasting relationship, it all works out in the end, don't you think?

I was privileged today to spend some time with two longtime friends.

One friend was in the hospital. Thankfully nothing life-threatening. Mainly she's fighting pain and boredom so hubby and I trekked up to Stevens Point for a few hours to help her pass the afternoon. It was the least we could do. She's done that and more for us. We're just thankful she'll be seeing some specialists at Mayo next week. It is always tough to see a friend in pain. We feel so helpless!

A second friend was someone who lived in Rapids when I first moved here 14 years ago and has since moved away (some 5 or 6 years ago). She was in town for a conference, called me up and we met for an evening chat and walk along the river. Isn't it funny how you don't see an old friend for years and your conversation can pick up practically where you left off years before? This friend is in pain, too. The emotional kind. Again I feel so helpless.

What I learned from both of them today is that prayer is still the most powerful answer and display of support when we're apart. I also was reminded how fortunate I am. Between a loving family and friends and my health, I am extremely blessed.

And when I'm not, I know I have friends to call on to be there for me. That's what friends do.

Neat, huh?