As a very amateur photographer, I sometimes wonder what draws me to the amazing young women participating in high school sports.
I am really starting to get it now.
- I have 6 sisters so I'm keenly aware of the power of supportive sisterhood.
- My high school was too small to offer all of the girls' sports opportunities.
- I'm a boy mom and that was never an opportunity/option to raise a girl in this atmosphere.
- As I age, I realize that once we "outgrow" the instinctively "catty years," many of us sisters end up supporting each other.
Why does this matter today? Well, first, I took the picture at a softball game tonight that was not going our way and I love how our catcher went out to calm down our pitcher and assure her she has this and she's doing great.
And .... This was following a crap day at work and (sorry Mom in heaven) a recent shit-show of several weeks at work.
The negative things I have discovered (and bear with this 50+ lady) is that after surviving the first decade of my career as a newspaper reporter and talked down to by city and county officials as "sweetheart" as if "bless you for trying." Then into the bigger publishing world where a female publisher had to act extra tough and aggressive to match her male counterparts – and us worker bees suffering as a result. And now (as a female obviously and at that special age) feeling undervalued and fighting for what I desire and, more importantly deserve, it's been a ... crap spring.
While hubby and I should be looking forward to retirement on the horizon... his way closer than mine... I am in a negative mindset. So negative with recent things at work. (Though I still absolutely love the company and its benefits.)
But the positive, as always since forever, is that there is this random network of sisters at work who get it and are willing to give me a hug and try to convince me to not feel "undervalued," but recognize how valued I am!
I'm sharing because I want high school girls to latch onto this. Don't be a "Mean Girl." Extend the support to your "sisters" (on a sports team or wherever) and they'll extend it back.
College girls, same thing but also stand firm that you've learned things and deserve a job.
Early career girls... prove your worth through your work quality first before getting cocky.
And the rest of us... if you are a great sister (aka supporter), I think you'll find women who return the favor.
Not to say men can't do this ... because a male co-worker took me lunch today to talk me off the ledge... but just lean into the opportunity to support (and hopefully enjoy) the potential staying power of sisterhood.
End note: I'll be OK. I just have things to think about. And I did get a few of the best hugs this week!
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!

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